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10/2/14, Day 14,030 (Mercena Day 48): Meeting with Ravi at New Sanctuary

This was a day of many meetings. After a 4:30am wake up call with morning with Mercena and then some TCG remote work, I ran late to a phone call with the ever-amazing Carmen Morgan, who is facilitating an internal assessment of TCG’s diversity, inclusion and equity. I’m so excited that we’re doing this work, and as ever, I left my time with her feeling renewed.

I then had consecutive TCG meetings on the Conference, the Gala, Theatre Facts, the new online American Theatre’s weekly email and our web/database upgrade. With one notable exception (it’s amazing how having a newborn helps you see just how tenuous our adult-hold is on our emotional life), these were very productive meetings, and I’m way back in the think of it again.

Then, I ran down to a Flux meeting led by Sol with Micah and Ravi from Judson and the New Sanctuary movement. We’re hoping to create work with them to change laws and cultural attitudes towards immigrants and immigration laws, and it was thrilling to hear about all the great work they’ve done over the years. More on this anon.

I then raced back uptown to pick up our Katchkie Farms CSA veggies before heading home to help with Mercena’s bedtime. She evidently had a great day, too, with a sweet visit from our dear friend Lori as the highlight on her dance card.


10/3/14, Day 14,031 (Mercena Day 49): Kol Nidre on Live Stream

For Mercena’s first Yom Kippur, we watched the Kol Nidre service from Storahtelling and sang along. We each made a vow and let something go: my vow was to enjoy being a parent, even when it exhausting and frustrating; and I’m letting go of social media comment debates. Man, what a waste of time and spirit those are…

The day began so beautifully, with Mercena napping a short while on my chest (see the glowing pic above). She’s doing better and better at sleeping in her bassinet, though bedtimes remain a pretty fussy affair. I feel blessed to say that right now the good times continue and we have a mostly happy baby. I know it won’t stay this way, but I don’t ever want to take these good times for granted.

It was another frenzied day at TCG, with a great REPRESENT conversation, a Fall Forum planning meeting, and several major communications pieces all moved off my plate. I then had the opportunity to audition for a project written by one of my favorite playwrights, led by a number of artists I respect. I’m so grateful when anyone thinks of me as an actor these days. I don’t do anything to find acting gigs, so it’s really special when people remember that’s something I do.

While I haven’t finished Taina and Marvin yet, I’ve continued to plug away at it every day, and do expect to have it finished by the weekend.


Technique never stands still: it only advances or retreats…

Writing: 156 out of 199 days (Taina and Marvin)
Spanish: 133 out of 199 days
Music: 59 out of 105 days

What small things did I do the past two days to help build the Honeycomb?
(And what does it mean to “Help build the honeycomb?”)

  • Ate and cooked local, organic, vegetarian food, and used cloth diapers for Mercena (though also neglected to bring food to work, though managed to add very little additional waste because of awesome Just Salad bowl);
  • Signed my support to a petition against the recent legislation restricting voter rights;
  • Asked the EPA to restrict the chemicals that are killing bees;
  • Thanked Mayor De Blasio for raising NYC’s minimum wage.



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(Why am I naming days?)
9/18/14, Day 14,016 (Mercena Day 34): Anniversary at The Witching Hour

For our third anniversary, Heather and I knew there was only one place we wanted to go: The Witching Hour.

This trendy FoHi restaurant comes to you, cooking whatever you have frozen in your fridge that requires the least amount of effort. Then, in truly theatrical dining style, the server pitches a rolling fussy meltdown that ensures the food is not only lukewarm, in spite of multiple reheating attempts, but that you never have the chance to sit down and eat it together. The attention to detail is stunning: just as you gaze into the eyes of your beloved and murmur an exhausted “Happy Anniversary,” the server wakes from her brief, illusory slumber to wail at a pitch both excruciating and somehow cat-like. What better way to celebrate three years of love together than eating a big steaming plate of the consequences of that love?

Yeah, so actually The Witching Hour is the name given the time from 5pm to 11pm when babies of a certain age have extended periods of fit-pitching, and our baby was pitching some real heat last night. But, it all worked out well, as she then had her best night of sleep ever. So did Heather, as I took my first shift at night with the bottle, which allowed her over five hours of mostly uninterrupted sleep in the early morning…which was probably the best anniversary gift I could’ve given her.

We also had a great visit from Sean Williams, and we traded many baby stories. While I have trouble with prescriptive advice, I love hearing about other parents’ experiences. I’ve learned so much just by tracking the narrative of each baby’s journey, and it’s one of the reasons why I’m doing so much baby blogging here, in the hopes it might be of use or comfort to someone else going through it.

One of the biggest challenges we’ve had is accepting that she needs to be put down for naps earlier than we think. Part of it is we want to play with her while she’s awake, and part of it is that she isn’t very good at falling asleep without the aid of being totally milk-drunk or exhausted. But, when we follow the Two Yawn Rule–by the second yawn, she’s on her way to the bassinet–she’s much less fussy, both during that time period and cumulatively throughout the day.

What’s crazy is how hard is for her to fall asleep for those naps: the pacifier helps, singing to her helps, but even with all of that, she still manages to nearly fall asleep and then pop back awake for sometimes as long as an hour before she finally nods off. We’ve been experimenting with bringing back the swaddle with success for very fussy periods, and maybe we’ll want to use it more broadly, though she’s been very resistant to it in the past.

Technique never stands still: it only advances or retreats…

Writing: 146 out of 184 days (Untitled New Play)
Spanish: 131 out of 184 days
Music: 51 out of 90 days

What small things did I do yesterday to help build the Honeycomb?
(And what does it mean to “Help build the honeycomb?”)

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